You, the parent, are equally as important to your child’s positive lacrosse experience as the coach of the team. The job of the parent of an athletic child is a tough one, and it takes a lot of effort to do it well. It is worth all the effort when you hear your child say, “My parents really helped me, I was lucky in this…”

1. Make sure your children know that win or lose, scared or heroic, you love them, appreciate their efforts, and are not disappointed in them. This will allow them to do their best without fear of failure. Be the person in their life they can look to for constant positive enforcement.
2. Try your best to be completely honest about your child’s athletic capability, their competitive attitude, sportsmanship, and actual skill level.
3. Be helpful, but don’t coach them on the way to the rink, pool, or field, or on the way back, or at breakfast, and so on. It is tough not to but it’s a lot tougher for the child to be inundated with advice, pep talks, and often critical instruction.
4. Teach them to enjoy the thrill of competition, to be out there trying, to be working to improve skills and attitudes. Help them to develop the feel for competing, for trying hard, for having fun.
5. Try not to re-live your athletic life through your children in a way that creates pressure; you fumbled, too, and you lost as well as won. You were frightened, you backed off at times; you were not always heroic. Don’t pressure them because of your lost pride.
6. Don’t compete with the coach. If the coach becomes an authority figure, it will run from enchantment to disenchantment, etc. with your athlete.
7. Don’t compare the skill, courage, or attitudes of your children with other members of the team, at least within his hearing.
8. Get to know the coach so that you can be assured that the philosophy, attitudes, ethics, and knowledge are such that you are happy to have your child under this leadership.
9. Always remember that children tend to exaggerate, both when praised and when criticized. Temper your reaction and investigate before overreacting.
10. Make a point of understanding courage and the fact that it is relative. Some of us can climb mountains and are afraid to fight. Some of us will fight but turn to jelly if a bee approaches. Everyone is frightened in certain areas. Explain that courage is not the absence of fear, but a means of doing something in spite of fear or discomfort.